from overdoing to flowing

For the past few months, I’ve been carrying this mix of feelings that I couldn’t quite explain.

A strange blend of inspiration and exhaustion, restlessness and clarity, excitement and burnout. Almost feels like my soul is moving faster than my body could keep up.

This is the kind of overstimulation — the kind that creeps in when you’ve been doing too much, feeling too much, wanting too much, all at the same time.

And for a while, I thought something was wrong with me.

But then I realised something important: I’m not breaking down. I’m transitioning.

I’m standing between the old version of me and the new one. Between who I’ve been… and who I’m becoming.

And this in-between space?
It naturally brings a little chaos. A little friction. A little “I want more, but I don’t know how yet.”

So I decided it’s time for a reset.
A slow one.
A gentle one.
One that isn’t about hustling harder, but about flowing differently.

This marks the beginning of my 6-month experiment — a shift from overdoing to flowing, from pressure to presence, from burnout to balance.

Why I Needed This Reset

There’s a truth most of us don’t admit out loud: you can be grateful for your life and still feel tired of constantly pushing.

I realised I’ve been trying to do everything all at once:

Working full-time
Creating content
Building my website
Managing my community
Showing up for my partner, friends, and family
Renovating my home
And trying to learn new things on top of it

It was too much — even for someone who loves doing a lot.

What I Learned About My Restlessness

I’ve learned that my restlessness wasn’t a sign of failure. It was a sign of change.

1. My soul is ready for the next chapter, but my body needs time to catch up.

Sometimes your inner world shifts before your outer world does. And that gap creates anxiety, not because you’re on the wrong path, but because you’re actually getting closer to the right one.

2. My creativity needed space, not pressure.

I’ve been overflowing with ideas… but ideas need air, not deadlines.

3. Comparison isn’t jealousy — it’s direction.

Every time I felt that little sting seeing someone live a life I want, I realised it wasn’t envy.
It was saying: “This is possible for you too.”

My 6-Month Gentle Reset – What It Actually Means

This isn’t a productivity challenge. This is a healing experiment.

For the next 6 months, I’m focusing on:

1. Soft Structure

Not rigid schedules. Not burnout routines. Just gentle plans that support my nervous system, not drain it.

2. Feminine Energy Leading, Masculine Energy Supporting

Feminine: flow, intuition, creativity, softness
Masculine: structure, direction, clarity, boundaries

I want both, but in balance.

Not drive-drive-drive. Not float-float-float. But something in between.

3. One Tiny Action per Day

Creatively. Personally. Emotionally.

It is not a sprint!

4. Monthly Check-Ins

Every month, I’ll check in with myself:

How am I feeling?
What drained me?
What lit me up?
What opportunities appeared when I slowed down?
What shifted in my mindset, energy, or creativity?

These check-ins will become part of this series.

5. Listening to My Body More Than My To-Do List

If I need rest, I rest.
If I need silence, I unplug.
If I need inspiration, I wander.
If I need movement, I move.

Gentle Steps You Can Start Today With Me

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Okay, this sounds like me… but what do I actually do right now?”

So here are a few soft, realistic steps you can try today:

1. Take 3 deep breaths and come back into your body

When your mind is racing with “I should do more,” pause. Hand on heart. Three slow breaths.
Whisper to yourself: “I’m here. I’m not behind. I’m allowed to slow down.”

Sometimes that’s enough to soften the chaos.

2. Choose just one focus for today

Instead of trying to fix your whole life at once, ask: “What’s the one thing that needs my energy today — my rest, my creativity, or my growth?” And let that be enough.

3. Create a tiny “action pocket” once a week

Pick one evening or one hour a week that’s just for your ideas or dreams.
Not to “finish” anything, just to play, write, brainstorm, or move one tiny step forward.

4. Start a 3-sentence evening check-in

At the end of the day, write down:

One thing that felt good or calm
One small step that fed your soul
One thing you’re grateful for

This keeps you grounded in what is working, even when your mind says, “it’s not enough.”

5. Let yourself be human, not a machine

You don’t have to “earn” rest by doing enough. You’re allowed to slow down, to take a night off from your plans, to not be “on” all the time.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is recharge.

How I’m Balancing Flow & Structure

This was the hard part.

I love flow, but I also need some grounding.

So my new rule is simple: Flow sets the direction. Structure holds the space.

Feminine energy chooses the vision. Masculine energy chooses the next step – gently.

What I Hope This Experiment Becomes

I hope this becomes:

A softer way of living
A more sustainable way of creating
A calmer nervous system
A clearer vision
A deeper trust in timing
A more authentic way to show up

I want to see what happens when I stop forcing life…and let life meet me halfway.

If You’re Feeling the Same…

If you feel burnt out, overwhelmed, uninspired, or like you’ve been pushing too long — I want you to know this:

You’re not falling behind. You’re shifting. Your energy is changing. Your life is catching up.

And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is slow down.

I’m excited to see how the next 6 months unfold. Because finally, it feels like I’m choosing a path that actually supports me.

I’ll be sharing a 3-month check-in, a 6-month reflection, and the lessons, tools, rituals, and insights I learn along the way.

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